September 9 is International FASD Awareness Day. Fetal alcohol spectrum disorder describes the impacts on the brain and body of someone exposed to alcohol in the womb. On Sunday, we participated in a community event at St James Park in downtown Toronto organized by Surrey Place, the wonderful organization that has supported T since heContinue reading “Drumming Heartbeats for FASD Awareness Day”
Category Archives: Parenting
The Boy with the Big Outdoor Voice
“Oh my God, when is that baby going to stop crying,” our 9-year-old said loudly during our recent flight home from Banff. I was horrified and amused. The woman behind us burst out laughing. Such is the life with T, who is never shy to speak his mind, even and especially when things are bestContinue reading “The Boy with the Big Outdoor Voice”
Riding the Rollercoaster of Life
The build up often outlasts the thrill themselves, but boy, are they worth it sometimes. Our annual Labour Day weekend camping plans were thwarted by bad weather and we kept it local and chill instead. We took T to Canada’s Wonderland on Saturday, a beautiful day, our first visit in two years. Going in, weContinue reading “Riding the Rollercoaster of Life”
Visits to the Hospital
Parents want to protect children from hard realities of life but these moments can provide valuable lessons. T has faced a lot of heartbreak for a 9 year old, including Ma’s death this year and my sister’s death the prior year; the latter lived with us in the last few months of her battle withContinue reading “Visits to the Hospital”
The Tumbles and Polish of Sea Glass
Picking up treasures on pebbled shores reflected the journey through life’s imperfections. One highlight from our visit to T’s grandparents in New Brunswick was picking sea glass. Wonderopolis describes sea glass as pieces of glass smoothed over time by the tumbling of water, waves, and sand. As glass soak in salt water and get tossed againstContinue reading “The Tumbles and Polish of Sea Glass”
Swimming at Nigadoo Falls: An Off the Beaten Path Oasis in New Brunswick
Often times, the best activities are those known to the locals. At the top of T’s list to do during our annual summer visit to his grandparents in Beresford was to swim at Nigadoo Falls. It’s a beautiful, rocky and fresh water spot tucked in the woods, off the unassuming Rue du Moulin in Nigadoo,Continue reading “Swimming at Nigadoo Falls: An Off the Beaten Path Oasis in New Brunswick”
Wild Blueberries
We’re letting T run wild this summer, taking a more relaxed approach than previous years. Usually by the end of June, I would’ve lined up worksheets and books from his teacher, to work on with T over the summer. I did this to avoid summer learning slide, as I’m mindful of T’s FASD and ADHD.Continue reading “Wild Blueberries”
Hiking Takakkaw Falls and Canoeing Emerald Lake at Yoho National Park
We saved some of the best experiences for last during our family summer trip to Banff, Alberta. I intentionally kept our last day as a blank slate when planning the itinerary. At the advice of a local, we spent the day exploring Yoho National Park, located an hour drive from the town of Banff. OurContinue reading “Hiking Takakkaw Falls and Canoeing Emerald Lake at Yoho National Park”
The Quiet Beauty of Banff’s Lake Louise and Moraine Lake
Turquoise and emerald water, majestic snow-capped mountains and carpet of evergreens. A trip to Banff’s must-see lakes did not disappoint and there was an unexpected bear sighting too! Our visit to both lakes on the fifth day of our week-long trip worked to our advantage, as the weather was great. As we learned through ourContinue reading “The Quiet Beauty of Banff’s Lake Louise and Moraine Lake”
Cycling the Legacy Trail and to Johnston Canyon in Banff
A 25 km bike ride in Western Canada provided an unforgettable scenic experience for my family. On the fourth day of our week-long visit to Banff in Alberta, I planned a full-day outing around T’s love for biking; it was just last summer that our 9-year-old took off his training wheels. There are numerous bikeContinue reading “Cycling the Legacy Trail and to Johnston Canyon in Banff”
Family Summer Visit to Beautiful Banff in Alberta
We kicked off T’s summer with a week-long visit to Banff, a town within Banff National Park in Alberta. Our Canada Day departure got off to a slow start with a 2-hour mechanical delay, while we were already seated on the plane. “Is the plane going to crash?” T asked loudly and I reminded himContinue reading “Family Summer Visit to Beautiful Banff in Alberta”
Born This Way
We kicked off T’s summer by marching in Canada’s largest Pride parade and championed freedom to information. I have a leadership role on my work’s Pride employee group and was part of the team that organized our march. For the second year, we chose the theme of intellectual freedom and reused signs from last year,Continue reading “Born This Way”
Goal Posts
Grade 3 is in the history books and we’re kicking summer off with soccer. T has recently developed a love for soccer. Thanks to his CYW, he had his own soccer ball and played soccer at recess with a group of boys. There were bumps along the way, as T gets upset when he doesn’tContinue reading “Goal Posts”
Going Off the Deep End
T loses control of his emotions on a regular basis, but today, it was for the best and proudest reasons. The outdoor city pool opened this weekend and it’s a summer tradition for us to spend time there. It’s a small plain pool but it is special place for us, because it saved our pandemicContinue reading “Going Off the Deep End”
Using Medication for a Child with FASD
The cereal box T created for his media literacy class is called “Growing Stronger.” I like that they teach Grade 3 students media literary, as well as nutrition, in a hands on way. Just as diet influences health of kids with fetal alcohol spectrum disorder, our parenting journey has demonstrated that medication can be anContinue reading “Using Medication for a Child with FASD”
Boomerang
On special days when stars align, the energy we send out come flying back at us. T recently completed the EQAO standardized Grade 3 test earlier this month. T’s school was so supportive. He had his CYW’s support to complete the test, as he gets distracted on the computer. On the first day of theContinue reading “Boomerang”
But Is It Art?
After years of being on the receiving end of mischief, our cat got back at her 9-year-old nemesis. “OH MY GOD!” T screamed Friday morning. It was a PA Day and he stayed home instead of going to daycare, as we were going to a FASD caregiver group meetup at lunch. “What is it?” IContinue reading “But Is It Art?”
Futures Planning for the Neurodiverse Child
One thing that keeps me up as a special needs parent is thinking about our child’s future. My workplace is developing its next multi-year strategic plan. Participating in the process made me think about T’s next few years. Any special needs parent will tell you we just want to make it to the end ofContinue reading “Futures Planning for the Neurodiverse Child”
The Joy in the Meander
Slow down, take the detours, be open to the unexpected, stay present, soak in the moment. We all end up at a finish line, so what’s the rush? It’s a valuable lesson I’ve learned as T’s parent. Our family recently helped celebrate the 18th birthday of a friend’s son. It seemed like yesterday that heContinue reading “The Joy in the Meander”
Step with the Best Foot Forward
A painful truth about being a parent of a child with FASD is the world often sees them at their worst. A parent shared this, between tears, during a recent weekly virtual FASD caregivers group and I wanted to hug her because I felt her heartache. I then thought about Mothers Day lunch with familyContinue reading “Step with the Best Foot Forward”
My Life With T 