I didn’t get my driver’s license until my 30s and after failing the final road test twice.
When I finally got it, it was a good reminder that some things that may seem out of reach at first may not always stay that way.
As a parent of a child with FASD, I often think and blog about growth mindset.
The program coordinator at SNAP, which the hubby, T and I are participating in this Spring, shared a great picture book called “The Magical Yet” that speaks about growth mindset.
It reminds me to focus on effort not perfection, on the long term not a moment in time, and on growing not being static.
Just because you can’t do it yet, doesn’t mean you can’t one day.
I’m also a pragmatist. For me, it’s important to temper this message with the reality that there are many things that each of us will simply not able to be good at – neurodiverse or not – and that’s ok.
We tell T the most important thing to do is to have an open mind, give everything a good try, and have fun.
For me, cooking was something I was never good at growing up but I now enjoy as a hobby and therapy – and it’s been fun to grow my skills in this area.
For T, participation in school is often a challenge.
Thanks to support from his CYW, and solid effort from T himself, he’s made positive gains this year.
In his daily communications book, we now often see updates about him raising his hand.
Last Thursday, our long weekend got off to a great start when his CYW texted us a heartwarming video of him in dance class.
She said that dance may be in his future and based on how awesome he was, she may be on to something!
I feel proud about the gains he’s making with reading, printing, and math.
T has also shown more interest in drawing – and I love how he sits quietly by the dining table with his sketchpad while I make dinner.
Reminds me of how I entertained myself as a kid on Friday evenings while Pa worked.
I love seeing the greater detail in his art and more importantly, him having fun with it.
When we have our challenging moments with T, I remind myself about his many gains and to focus on the magical yet.