Through virtual schooling, T learned about setting goals for the New Year.
The related assignment is the last thing we had to catch up on and complete this weekend before we return to in-person learning this coming week.
I often write about how we struggle with T to sit still and concentrate long enough to finish the work in the assigned time.
There is always a distraction, avoidance, excuse or disruptive behaviour that makes what should be a straightforward task very drawn out.
So we play a lot of catch up.
The hubby and I often worry what will happen when T gets into older grades and doesn’t have a dedicated support – or how T will fall behind or through the cracks as he gets older.
There may come a time when we simply can’t keep up with catch up.
In this life with T, you can only take things a day at a time.
What we had to complete this weekend was get T to identify three goals for 2022 and write a short sentence about how he will achieve each goal.
Getting him to type out the answer onto Google slides added a layer of technical complexity.
So I got him to brainstorm his answers out loud and I wrote them on a small dry erase board (great find at the dollar store) and then got T to type out his sentences onto the slide.
After an hour of distracted behaviour, T had only typed three and a half words.
I grew very frustrated and in turn, T became emotional.
He wanted me to type the answers and I explained that he has to learn to do his own work.
Thankfully, the hubby stepped in and helped T finish the task… eventually.
T came up with three great goals and pragmatic ways he will achieve these goals:
1. Learn to play soccer – “Practice in the backyard with Daddy and Papa.”
2. Learn to swim – “I will take swimming lessons.”
3. Improve my reading – “I will practice at home.”
Goal Three is the most urgent goal for me but Goal Two is the one I’m looking most forward to in terms of level of enjoyment.
As for me, one of my goals for 2022 is to be more patient with T when I sit with him to help him do school work.
I will achieve this goal by not strangling him as my first response to his disruptive behaviour.
It’s all about keeping it real and achievable!