The unfiltered innocence of a child is to be cherished.
Life teaches us from an early age to put on a mask to navigate different scenarios and relationships – familial, friendships, professional, social.
It’s not about deception but rather to demonstrate emotional intelligence – including respect, collegiality, trust building.
Sometimes, it is a necessity when dealing with difficult news or challenging situations.
I cherish the relationships that allow me to truly let my guard down.
I feel that children are true blessings, because they haven’t been moulded by life experiences just yet.
Kids like our T, who are often impulsive in action and thought, amuse me at times with how filter free they are.
Last Friday night during daycare pickup, the staff told me about an incident that had happened between T and two sibling students.
When T and I were in the playground after, I was approached by the students’ father and I knew this was not going to be a pleasant conversation.
I won’t get into the specifics other than to say that both sides had a role to play – but I put on my listening face, because the father was escalated and I was looking to deescalate.
The father labeled T a danger, neglecting to mention the situation started when his child threw sand at T’s face, albeit unintentionally and yes, T could’ve responded with more grace, but I explained that he has a disability and impulsivity and regulating emotions are not his forte.
The situation really bothered me. I will be the first person to admit T is not without challenges. However, the dad took it too far with his judgmental response. Such is life for people with invisible disabilities.
But I refused to let it ruin our long weekend, especially after the amazing week T had in school.
So I did my best – and it was far from perfect later that evening! – to put on a happy face.
We had a relaxing and fun weekend planned, including the first school birthday party that T was invited to since the pandemic.
T was super excited since getting the invite two weeks ago and his CYW, the hubby and I prepped T in the days leading up to it.
We made sure to arrive early so T could calmly ease his way into the event.
T was shy at first but warmed up. He enjoyed playing chase and balloon tag with his classmates and other young guests.
The hosts organized an amazing party, which included a face painting station, an hour-long magic show and a delicious spread of Indian food.
T was reluctant to try the face painting at first but by the end of the second hour, he was having so much fun that he approached the painter and lined up and waited patiently for his turn.
He got a cute Minion on his forehead.
The hubby and I felt so proud of T for overcoming his shyness to have a great time.
We texted photos to his CYW who texted back to say that she was proud of T too.
During the magic show, T sat on the carpet in the front row and was fully engaged and participating.
The magician asked the kids if they believed in magic and as I looked at T’s face of unfiltered joy, I said to myself, “Yes I do.”