Letting emotions stew is never productive. Stewing with tofu is a healthier outlet!
One of the most challenging aspects of parenting a child with FASD are when they get emotionally disregulated.
T’s meltdowns are hard. There are days when the hubby and I feel we are being verbally and physically threatened and attacked.
As life with T teaches us, focus on the big picture. The positive moments far outweigh the challenges.
There is a reason for why T has these moments and we’re learning to better support him before, during and after these moments happen.
One blessing of individuals with FASD is every day is a fresh start. In our experience, T is not one to stew much over things.
For better and for worse, he moves on – even though the rest of us are still reeling from his explosive moments.
It takes me longer to process things, especially when the time and space in my life to do so are so limited.
Writing continues to be my outlet to reflect and to process – so thank you to the blogger community for having coffee together.
Cooking is another outlet. Prepping ingredients, hearing the sizzle in the wok, and smelling the aroma fill the air are soothing to the soul.
Stews and stewy dishes are especially comforting. Here are a few recent dishes that I made:
Mapo tofu is a popular spicy Chinese dish from Sichuan province. Key ingredients are firm tofu, minced pork, sichuan peppercorn and chili oil.
It’s one of my favourite comfort meals and I was glad to finally make my own using this Wok of Life recipe.
Jiggae is a type of Korean stew and the foundational ingredients are tofu, kimchi and gochujang (red pepper paste).
Kimchi jiggae is made with canned tuna or pork belly. I’ve made both many times – and made my recent one with pork belly.
Cà ri gà
Vietnamese goat curry is something I love to order at the restaurant. I stumbled across this chicken curry recipe and had to make it.
It was interesting cooking using lemongrass. It turned out pretty well. I will try this recipe with lamb next time!
Silkie Chicken Herbal Soup
Silkie chicken (aka black chicken) soup was a comforting medicinal soup my parents made.
This was my first time making my own and I bought a pre-packaged herbal mix that included ginseng, goji berries and red dates – which made the broth soothingly sweet.
Braised Pork and Soy Sauce Eggs
Out of all the comfort foods I had growing up, this is at the top of my list. This is a staple in many Asian cultures and I recently used a Malaysian variation called Kong Tau Yew Bak.
As a kid, I thought it was a magical ingredient that made the eggs brown and so tasty. It turns out it’s just soy sauce! 😆
Cilantro Lime Rice
A good stew needs a warm bowl of rice. I don’t have experience making Mexican food (unless you count opening a bag of nachos and a can of salsa!)
I stumbled across this Cilantro Lime Rice recipe and had to make it because I didn’t know such a juxtaposition of ingredients existed. It was a perfect match for the braised pork and soy sauce eggs.
Chinese Cucumber Salad
A good stewy dish needs not just rice but a pickly salad.
To be honest, I only made this side dish cuz it looks so cool. As this Instagram recipe shows, it’s easy to make but looks impressive.
As I’ve written in the past, cooking helps me keep cool as a cucumber through the trials and tribulations of FASD parenting.