After starting his countdown right after Christmas, the big day is finally near.
T had a blast spending Christmas in New Brunswick with his cousin. When we got home, he asked how many more days till her visit this July.
During a recent bedtime, I told him that it was 45 days until she visited us in July. He got all excited and took a while to fall asleep.
He’s been counting down every day since.
As a parent of a child with FASD, I’ve learned that maintaining a positive mindset helps weather the disorienting storms and deflating setbacks.
As explained in this PhillyVoice article, creating things to look forward to helps provide positive mental and emotional boosts to motivate one through challenging times.
As an FASD parent, each day can have moments that go sideways and sometimes explode.
The power of anticipation helped us weather the two years of the pandemic by providing emotional buffer and motivation.
Whether it was scheduling self care days, our roadtrip during the first pandemic summer, or our recent Spring Break, it gave us something to look forward to away from the stress of simultaneous parenting, virtual schooling, working, and managing my Mom’s appointments.
There are also simple economical ways to build anticipation. For me, these include daily lunch hour walks during the work day with the hubby, Friday Netflix nights or a weekend hike with T.
In building moments of anticipation, it helps me reframe things in my life and take stock of how the blessings far outweigh the challenges.
The hubby and I started planning our summer back in the dreary days of winter and it helped the last few months fly by.
We’re looking forward to our first camping trip since the pandemic, the outdoor pools opening (next week!), and spending time in nature.
When I recently told T about our camping trip and how many more days until he visited his Grammy and Grandad, he lost it in the car.
“Today is going to be my last day on Earth,” he said.
“Oh, why is that?” I asked.
“I’m going to die tomorrow of happiness and excitement.”