Slowly, our little one’s innocence will be tempered with lessons about the hardships of the world.
On a drive home this weekend, we stopped at a red light and a disshelved man approached each car, with a cup in his hands.
We found two loonies in our car and I rolled down the window and put it in his cup.
T asked why he did that, so I explained the man was asking for money and it was important to help others when we are able to.
He asked why the man asked for money.
To keep it simple for a 7 year old, I explained the man was probably homeless.
“What does homeless mean?” He asked.
I explained that it means he probably doesn’t have a home to live in, which means he doesn’t have things that T has, like a bed, shower, or toilet.
“So he poos on the ground?” T asked in a bewildered tone.
The matter of fact way he said it made me chuckle, because it reinforced just how innocent his view of the world is.
The hubby explained he probably has to use a public washroom or borrow one at a restaurant.
T agreed that it was sad.
I often think about how fortunate we are that T has an innocent childhood.
As he gets older, he will undoubtedly be exposed to the uglier realities of the world.
As his parent, I want to hang onto his innocence, while providing him with the skills and knowledge to face those realities with grace and to do his part to making this world better.
The hubby then told T that his birth mother is also homeless and that was why she was not able to take care of him.
The suddenness caught me off guard but I appreciated the hubby using the conversation to share this story – as we try to find opportunities to slowly piece T’s story in his mind.
As with the other times when we talked about his birth mother, T took the news in silently.
We sat quietly in the car for the next few minutes, listening to music and watching the beautiful sunshine outside.