Sometimes, you’re blessed with a day overflowing with love that you bottle it up for the future.
We had one of those days this week when our dearest T celebrated his 7th birthday.
T excitedly counted down the days till his birthday since it entered single digits.
If you want to teach a kid about subtraction, pose the questions as the number of days till their birthday or Christmas. It’s very effective!
T got up excitedly. When he saw the balloons, his face lit up with a smile and he ran to the hubby and I for a group hug.
We did a Mario and Luigi theme for the second year. Balloons were red and green and bunched in threes, like in a Mario Kart battle mode.
During drop off, the hubby said teachers, parents and classmates all wished T a happy birthday.
Mid morning, T’s Child and Youth Worker sent us a photo of a Paw Patrol birthday card that a classmate had given to T.
My heart melted when I read the message: “Happy birthday T, you are my best friend.”
While T was at school, I thought back to the first birthday we celebrated with him at age 2.
The hubby and I started a birthday tradition of writing a letter to T’s 16-year-old self that summarized the past year’s highlights – both the highs and lows.
After he turned 4, I started this blog.
I plan to give the letters and share this blog and his adoption book when he turns 16. We hope they will help him feel a complete sense of self and how far he will surely have journeyed in life.
Birthdays provide a great time for reflection.
If you’re lucky, you can tune out the noise, forget the minutia and focus on the big picture.
When I picked T up from his after school program, he carried a chocolate bunny the staff gifted him.
He asked if he could have some and I said he could have a small bite before dinner.
He and I have different ideas of what “small bite” means.
T asked for Pizza Hut for dinner.
T had to finish his reading and spelling practice before he could have his Dairy Queen ice cream cake and open his gifts.
I’m an asshole, I know, but it was the only way to motivate him to do his homework!
T received thoughtful gifts from his grandparents, CYW and our friends.
The hubby and I gave T a fort-making set, because it would help build his creativity skills while leveraging his love for fort making.
And what are the chances his grandparents and us got him the same birthday card!
When I look back at this period of T’s life one day, I will remember the challenges for sure, but moments that will stand out with crystal emotional clarity will be days like this birthday.
Days filled with love, joy, balloons and cake.