We took our 7-year-old to his first wedding this past weekend.
Well, at least the first wedding he’ll remember. He attended his first and only wedding in 2016, a friend’s destination wedding, when he was 1.
As with all social events, we had some initial apprehension of how T will be.
But we believe it’s good to let T experience these life moments as they help him build his social skills and broaden his awareness of the world.
We briefed him about what to expect and we’ve also read books in the past about weddings, such as the fabulous Worm Loves Worm, a book that spoke about marriage of all forms.
It was a beautiful wedding held at the charming Old Mill Inn and it brought back fun memories.
The hubby and I attended our first wedding as a couple there back in 2004 and we’ve attended two other weddings there since.
We had planned to sit at the back, in case we needed to duck out to give T a break, but we spotted friends in the third row, so T got a great view of the ceremony.
He sat so well through the sweet ceremony. But T being T, muttered out loud when a baby started crying, “Oh my God, that baby is so annoying.”
I had to bite my tongue from laughing.
A lunch reception followed and we sat with our friends and their two daughters.
I loved how our hosts thought about each child by preparing a loot bag of things to help entertain them – such as fidget poppers and games.
The key to social outings with kids like T is to prep him ahead of time of what to expect, to not sweat the small stuff, and to not force him to do anything he doesn’t want, like taking photos.
He gets very cranky when we ask him to take photos when he’s not in the mood.
But it was wonderful when my friend’s daughters invited him to take photos together at the photo booth, which had many fun props.
I cherish these photos as his smile, as with any photo he decides to take, is pure and genuine.
The sweetness of the event was a welcomed contrast to the last few weeks of the new year – and to get dressed up and to celebrate a happy joyous occasion was a blessing.