A few weeks ago, T randomly asked about his birth mother.
We don’t know what prompted the question but we took out his adoption book and showed him the one photo we have of his mother.
We asked him what he was thinking and feeling but he was quiet. Then he moved on to his next activity and hadn’t asked about her since.
Every Mothers’ Day, I think about his mother and what I would tell her if we spoke.
It’s important to the hubby and I that we honor his requests anytime he asks about her.
She is part of his identity and we will provide him the pieces to complete that puzzle in his mind.
Mothers Day was wonderfully relaxing.
T and I spent the morning doing learning activities and playing in the park. In the afternoon, the hubby took T out to play with his scooter.
In the evening, I dropped off Chinese takeout for Ma and my Aunt as a Mothers Day treat.
I am thankful for every Mothers Day we celebrate with Ma as I’m aware they are finite.
Mother Nature, on the other hand, is the ageless force around us that transcends time.
It was a beautiful weekend, the first T-shirt, shorts and sandals weather – which I define as 13 degrees Celsius and up.
The beautiful flowers in our garden were blooming – lovingly tended by the mother who lived in our home for five decades prior to us.
Shades of yellow, orange, red, blue, pink, white. The delicate purple checked lily has also made its delightful annual appearance – pictured at top.
To all the moms, grandmas, caregivers – wishing you all a Happy Mothers Day.
This is beautiful 💗 I am an adoptive parent too, there can be a lot to navigate at times 💗 You are doing a great job!
Thank you Shauna. As you know, it comes with highs and lows – but always worth it for the highs.
I love how open and honest you are with T. I agree about how his mother is an important part of his identity, even if she isn’t involved in his life. It’s important to talk about these things even if it’s difficult. Glad to hear that you had a nice weekend. The weather was fabulous. P.S. I love the colourful display of Spring flowers in your garden.
Thank you, Linda. I agree that honest is the best policy, when he’s ready. 😊 We do love the flowers in our garden too!
PS. Hoping to visit Tobermory (finally) this summer!!! 😊
That’s exciting!! Tobermory is super scenic. It’s too bad the water is always freezing though.
Love this beautiful post! 13 degrees Celsuis doesn’t seem very warm but I bet after 0, it’s balmy! So glad that you had such a lovely weekend with your family and your Ma.
The exchange with T about his birth mother reminds me of the parenting advice to answer kids’ questions but not provide more than they ask. You just provided a gold standard of how to live by that maxim!
Thank you Wynne. It was quite tropical feeling. 😆 And thanks for your nice feedback. One advantage of having an ADHD kid with very limited attention span is you have to keep the communication brief and targeted!
Beautiful! XOXO
Thank you, Vickie. Hope you enjoyed a nice one too!
Ab, I may have said this before but I’m not sure if you’re aware how much hope you give me. Although our lives differ with specifics, in many ways we are the same which allows me to relate to your experiences on so many levels. I’m not sure yet if I will continue on this platform, but I would like to stay in tough with you. Thank you for being here my friend!
Thank you, Tammy. That is very nice of you say. The feeling is very mutual. 😊 I hope you are feeling better during these tougher times and regardless of whether you stay blogging (I hope you do), there are other ways to keep in touch for sure. 😊 Take good care!
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In Israel, where I grew up, they changed Mother’s Day to Family Day. Here is how they explain it:
“…by the 1990s, Mother’s Day would be reconfigured as “Family Day.” As a 2011 Channel 2 News report put it, “In recent years, there has been a serious attempt to deal with the variety of configurations of the nuclear family and all combinations are welcomed with love: children with two mothers, or two fathers, or single-parent families — all are part of the celebration, so as not to repeat the errors of the past.”
According to a 2006 Ministry of Education document outlining preschool activities for the day, “The division of roles in the family has changed and has become more egalitarian. Mothers are a significant economic factor in the family, and fathers share the relationship with the children from the stage of pregnancy and take a large part in their education and growth. These changes led to a change in the essence of the special day and its transformation from Mother’s Day to Family Day.”
Thank you for sharing this very interesting tidbit! That is wonderfully progressive to do and to celebrate! The family makeup today is definitely very diverse and dynamic.
In a way I’m glad we get to celebrate all varieties at Canada with Family, Mothers and Fathers Day nicely spread out. Hope you had a nice Mothers Day on your end! 😊
It’s nice if you have the ingredients for the celebrations, otherwise there can be a. lot of hurt 😥 I had a good day in sunny Florida 😊